Mental and Emotional Release (MER) has helped me overcome panic attacks and is one of the two most powerful methods of releasing emotional baggage that I know. But first things first: What is emotional baggage and why do you want to get rid of it? Emotional baggage are unreleased negative emotions connected to negative events in the past. If you have a negative experience no matter how much it effects you in the moment, you most likely have ways to process it, preserve the learnings and release the emotions. What’s left is the memory of the situation and the memory of HOW you felt. Emotional Baggage is different. You had an experience but for some reason you still get a full blown emotional response every time you remember it. The emotions flow through your body just as if you where in that situation again. You probably have some ideas already, but here are some examples anyway: An argument with your boss, a discussion with your (ex) spouse, a moment where you were ridiculed in school, an embarrassing situation in your past, a situation where you were in great danger, a situation where you were exposed to intense physical or emotional pain. You may even think it is normal to have that kind of memories and believe it serves you to still have the emotions connected to the memory. For example if you had a phobia of snakes, where seeing a snake evokes a huge fear response, you may say that this fear is helpful because it makes you stay away from poisonous snakes and stay alive.
So what is the problem with emotional baggage?
When you get into a dangerous or stressful situation your body reacts with a fight or flight or freeze response. Your body goes into survival mode, produces hormones of stress like cortisol and adrenaline, suppresses your creative thinking, your digestive system, your immune system and sends all your energy to those systems of your body that you need to survive: For example the muscles in your legs and in your arms. Imagine a deer in the forest when a pack of wolves shows up: The body of the deer goes into survival mode, the deer (hopefully) outruns the wolves and the stress hormones get metabolizes. The deer relaxes and continues to graze. We do the same thing, although we don’t encounter wolves too often but instead bosses, spouses, deadlines, bad drivers or call center agents and our bodies do the same thing. Now there is one difference between us and the deer. Our brains are advanced enough that we can imagine situations so well, that the mere memory sends us back into the situation as if it was happening right now, as if our wolves were in front of us in that very moment. We can be in an uneventful or even happy situation like sitting on our patio or balcony, driving in our car or sitting in front of the TV when suddenly one of those memories come up and start to feel the unreleased emotions. Suppressing our immune system every single time. What happens if we suppress our immune system on a regular basis over hours, days, weeks, months, years, decades? The likelihood of catching a disease increases. You may have experienced catching a cold shortly after an intense negative event at work or fight with a spouse. Now what happens if you suppress your immune system on a regular basis over decades? – Emotional baggage makes you sick. Literally.
What else does emotional baggage affect besides your health? – It impairs future decision making. When you get into a situation that reminds you of an event that you have emotional baggage connected to, you experience the appropriate emotions of that future event and then you have the unreleased emotions connected to the past event stacked on top of it: Your emotional reaction is out of proportion and thus your physical reaction is likely to be out of proportion as well. Common examples would be road rage, or if a word or gaze of your spouse reminds you of an ex-spouse and you react negative and your spouse has no idea where that reaction is coming from.
And what about that snake? Isn’t that fear serving you? What serves you is the knowledge that the snake in front of you may be dangerous, stop and walk around the snake. If you see a snake on the sidewalk and your fear response makes you jump into traffic, then your emotional baggage put you at risk instead of saving you.
Mental and Emotional Release is a technique that uses NLP principles to access the unconscious part of your mind to guide you artificially through that emotional release process that should have happened naturally but did not happen in your particular case. MER is powerful enough to not only get rid of negative emotions connected to minor events, but even traumas, phobias and PTSD. Through a guided visualization process, MER disconnects the factual memories of the event from the emotional memories. MER helps you access and overwrite the subconscious information that runs your emotional (overreactive) response by helping you subconsciously preserving the learnings and then disconnecting the emotion in a guided visualization process. How can a guided visualization access the subconscious mind? – You may know that you can access your subconscious mind in meditation and you may know that you can access your subconscious mind in hypnosis. Hypnosis is a guided visualization process. An emotional imprint happens in seconds or minutes, why should it take longer to release it? – It doesn’t, except if you don’t know how. I believe MER should be taught in schools.
The Biology of Belief – Bruce Lipton
Mental and Emotional Release – Dr. Matt James
Becoming Supernatural – Joe Dispenza
Want to experience Mental and Emotional Release? You have emotional baggage that you would like to let go? – Get in touch with me.